Should my girl and i file for our divorces or wait and see if they men we married will file?

Ok well my girl and I have been together for 2 years. Prior to our relationship, we were both bisexuals married to guys. We have both seperated from our husbands and we are living together. We are wanting to plan a commitment ceremony and commit to each other publicly. Should we save the money up and file for the divorces or let the guys worry about it.Should my girl and i file for our divorces or wait and see if they men we married will file?
Let the guys worry about it?? I am surprised by some of these answers. You and your girlfriend willingly left each of your marriages (most likely taken each guy by surprise). You each want divorces to be with each other. It would make sense to me that if you want out of the marriage, you need to take personal responsibility to file and pay for the divorces. It doesn't make any sense for your husbands to shoulder the responsibility.Should my girl and i file for our divorces or wait and see if they men we married will file?
If you're living somewhere where the state doesn't recognize same-sex marriage, why bother? It couldn't legally be construed as bigamy, since your marraige wouldn't legally ';exist';. If this is the case take the money you'd pay your lawyers and go on a nice ';honeymoon'; instead. If you are in a state that allows s/s marriages then you may want to file, because you'd need to be single to be married.
Depends on how quickly you want to divorce. If you're ready to move forward with your new partner, I would suggest you go ahead and file ASAP. Divorce can be very expensive, nasty, and take a very long time. The sooner you file, the sooner you can get the ball rolling and move on with your life.
If it was me, I would make sure to legally end my previous marriage before entering into a new commitment. That way you go in fresh, and without the weight of that hanging over your new relationship.


If your husband's do not file, I would save up and do it yourselves. Congrats, and good luck to you both!
A.J. is a fool.


You're not selfish at all.





But honestly, it's probably a better idea to let the guys handle it.


Just to be safe, start saving money up whenever you can.


Hope for the guys, but don't count on them.


You may have to wait longer than you bargained for if you do.
i would file for the divorces and get it over with atleast when u and ur girlfriend have ur commitment cermony u's are truely commited withou still being married to your husbands.





congratulations and i hope it works out well for you





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if you love your girlfriend then file, even though you and her are probally already acting like you are married, go ahead and do it, a divorce takes a while anyway, so loger you wait put another few months on top of that atleast
If you're only planning a commitment ceremony and you're not legally marrying your girlfriend (whether it be domestic partnership, civil union, or marriage) then I guess there's no harm in staying ';legally'; married to your ex-husbands.
im only 16 but i think that if you weight for them to do it, that its like telling them that your asking if they want you to stay with them. let me know what you think
you should do it yourselves cause you legally can't marry someone if you are married to someone else. And plus you never know if the guys will actually do it
File. It looks better to the courts if you take the inititative to file yourself.
What you should do is honor the commitments you've already made.





That's what people of integrity do.
It were me I would file first.


Maggiec645
Let the guys worry about it!
You are selfish.
let the guys worry about it