My dear muslim friends - im newly married and need help with an issue to do with my husband?

we had our first night together and i didn't bleed so he thinks im not a virgin and that i might have had a past that i am not telling him about!!


i am a virgin but i just did not bleed on our first night!!


how can i get him to believe me, i think he is going mad and he just isn't very knowledgeable on these womanly matters...


Now what should i do?My dear muslim friends - im newly married and need help with an issue to do with my husband?
You husband is a bimbo......





I wouldn't care if she bled or not........my job is to give it to her.My dear muslim friends - im newly married and need help with an issue to do with my husband?
If I was you, I would get a medical doctor to come visit your house and talk to you and your husband and explain the whole thing as some posters have done here.





You are probably married to some immature muslim man who is sexually insecure as well. This is a very common occurrence as muslim men are often not used to dealing openly with sexual matters and femininity. The plus side of this is that they make good faithful husbands, the minus side is that sometimes they end up making horrible boring sex partners.





Visit the local hospital and see if a doctor can come visit you at dinner time and talk to BOTH of you together. The hospital may refer you to a private gynocologist and maybe you will have to pay for a one hour home visit. I am sure, most doctors will be sympathetic to your situation and try to be helpful and accomodating.
Well........ women do not have to bleed on their first night, some do some don't it does mean anything............. it seems like he has some things in his past that he is not telling you........... if he continues to bother you, go away for a bit.......... so that he can think and realise what his missing........ This really bothers me about men, especially muslim men (not all of course) but quite a few go around thinking they can have sex on the sly, but then 'repent' marry a good girl and start judging her.........
research online... some women don't have hymens.





read the bottom bit (scroll down) on this link


http://www.revirgination.net/hymen-deflo鈥?/a>





this answers the question


http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Do_many_women_鈥?/a>





this explains ALOT


http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/you-鈥?/a>





EDIT::: Do NOT promise by putting your hand on the quran!! Astagfarullah! This shouldnt be taken lightley.


If worst comes to worst and there is no choice left then Swear by Allah as this is the biggest Promise ever and to lie would be a grave sin! Also you are not allowed in Islam to swear by anything except Allah... (so no quran!) ... and it shouldnt be done lightly.
Its unfortunate he doesn't believe you.





I'd say get him legitimate reading material. Maybe a gyno would have some pamphlets. Or some website that has some legitimacy...something more than somebody's personal page.
try to make him understand or if you are saying truth so keep hand on quran and say that i did not did any illegal sex. Hope he will understand and arrange quran reading together . SO that you both can know your rights.
Swear to him on Quaran





Some Turks insult Arabs, can you answer here?


http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
i read something about this before.





its perfectly normal not to bleed as much as it is to bleed.





its different with every person.
May allah help u,see a female gynoclogist asap-!!


these matters are sometimes taken very seriously by muslim men.
Bandit AKA Muslim


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Tell him that he is thick headed stoner who should get a life.


I feel sorry for you. Hahahahah.
get a doctor feed your husband with the some correct information..
I agree with IMAM XIII





Salam.
- some girls may never bleed in their first time.





- some girl's hymen can be broken by non sexual penetrations, by activities like: tampons (although designed not to), horse riding, gymnastic, biking, etc.





- some women bleed on their 2nd 3rd 4th time and so on, the reason may be that man's penis didn't penetrate the woman's vagina well enough. And the hymen remains still inact.

















Listen Here is an advise from a sister to sister. I assume either u r a desi or an Arab.





[1] These men are living in the last centuries, what's the proof of HIS virgirty?


[2] A woman is worth more than her vagina, If he can't accept and respect that, then there is NO NEED for this marriage to last this instant longer.


[3] Be firm and strong, any weakness in your part may arise more suspision


[4] If he accusing u, he needs to provide 4 witnesses to verify his claim, he is slandering and so the Koran says:





And those who launch a charge against chaste [honorable] women, and produce not four witnesses [to support their allegations],- flog them with eighty stripes; and reject their evidence ever after: for such men are wicked transgressors [evil-doers] (An-Nur 24:4)





[5] Age of weak women is over.


[6] Show him this:


http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/search/searc鈥?/a>





18,000+ posts, 5 is enough to convince a retarded.