Why is it that once you get married your spouse wants to change you?

I just recently got married and now it seems like all of a sudden my husband wants me to change.. How is it that i was good enouph before and now im not. He doesnt like me being so independant, to an extent i know we should be a team on things now. He all of a sudden has a problem with the way i am and everything i do.. Is there really something wrong with me? Should i let go of who iam and become who he wants?Why is it that once you get married your spouse wants to change you?
Sorry to hear im recently getting out of a divorce. If he has to change you, then he doesnt like you for you. Its great you are independent because if things dont work out, you dont have to depend on him if something goes wrong, which i made that mistake. Being together you change together over time, you should never have to change who you are, you know you love you for you. If their is something you dont like about yourself then by all means do what you can to change it. Why is it that once you get married your spouse wants to change you?
NO! Never change who you are for anyone, especially your husband. You can change things with your husband, such as; the time you get up in the morning, or the way he takes out the garbage, etc. but you cannot change your personality and the way you feel and think.





He has to accept you for who you are. Now married, he feels like he has control. DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY CONTROL! Keep your pride and dignity and tell him how you feel. Threaten that this will stop, because this is not marriage. Marriage is love, respect, trust and communication. Marriage is when you make him happy and he makes you happy. You are married for each other, not yourselves. He cannot be selfish in a marriage, because selfish people should be alone. But you have to tell him these things. Let him know that you will not be disrespected and if he continues to want to change you, he will destroy the marriage and it will eventually end up in divorce.





Get really strong and don't let anyone walk all over you. This is your life and the two of you decided to share your life, not control it!





Good Luck and Happy Thanksgiving!
Try and discuss it with him... But no, you should never give up who you are because sooner or later your true self will want to come out and at best it will all end up in resentment...


I tried to change all that i was for my husband... As years went by he wanted me to be someone completely different and i started to miss more and more the person i truly was...


It does not work like that...


Try and talk to him and see if there is any middle ground... If are compromises that you could make knowing that it will not change who you are... But if there is no middle ground... you should do what is best for you, for your true self...


You can not make anyone happy if you are not making yourself happy first.


Good luck!
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