As a married couple, what advice do you have for two about to tie the knot?

What would you tell someone who is getting married?As a married couple, what advice do you have for two about to tie the knot?
The secret to a happy marriage is....











Separate blankets. Oh sure I know that people think that's crazy, but it has worked for my wife and I .





We've been happily married 19 years, and have been using separate blankets since about year 2. Just remember, there's no law saying that I can't slip under her covers or she mine from time to time. LOL














Since we've figured out the secret to a happy marriage, we're starting to think that the secret to a perfect marriage is...separate beds. Like they did on the Lucy, and Dick Van Dyke shows. LOL.As a married couple, what advice do you have for two about to tie the knot?
I think that you should go to premartial counseling. That way you can be able to communicate with each other in a healthy way. A lot of issues will come out during this time. When you get married you will be able to remember the session and the communication will still be open. I think communication is the key to a successful marriage. But sometimes you have to learn how to talk to each other the right way in order to accomplish things.
It's great to marry the one you love but that sometimes isn't enough. Once you have found the love of your life, it is time to discuss the practical, non-romantic stuff, the stuff that can destroy a marriage.





Topics to address:


1) Kids: Do both of you want kids? How many? What are your respective viewpoints on religion (if parents are of different religious beliefs), discipline, etc. Again, love is the first thing you need for a happy, successful marriage but love won't save a marriage if you end up finding out later that he doesn't want ANY kids while you want 10 kids.





2) Money. Will the wife eventually want to stay home to raise the kids? Will the father be able to support a family on just his income? How important is saving and/or getting out of debt to each party? What are your life goals, financially speaking? If his financial plan involves living for today and worry about tomorrow later and your financial plan involves saving so that both of you can retire by the age of 45 and travel the world, then your marriage is not likely to survive, no matter how much you may love each other.





3) Deal breakers. Both of you need to make is absolutely clear what your deal breakers are. Each party will have a very clear, no ifs, ands or buts expectation of what to expect if a deal breaker is made. For example, your deal breaker may be infidelity while his deal breaker may be compulsive shopping. He will know, without a shadow of a doubt, that if he cheats then the marriage is over. No questions asked. You, in turn, know that if you shop your way into bankruptcy then your marriage is over, no questions asked.





These are not fun topics to discuss but it will save both of you lots of grief and misery to get these things out in the open before you get married. Getting married is like buying a house...you have to fall in love with it first but you have to check the plumbing, roof, wiring, etc. before you buy that house. If you don't go through a checklist of things before you buy that house and you buy it based only on the fact that you love it, that house may crumble later because the foundation was cracked.
Communication can't be stressed enough. You *must* talk everyday. If you're mad, tell him. If you're annoyed about anything - even if it's something really petty, tell him. Bottled up emotions destroy marriages.





Compromise is key. You're not going to agree on many things, so agree to disagree. Do it his way today, your way tomorrow.
My husband and I have been married for 241/2 years and the key for us is to.Always be open and honest with one another. so that is my advice to you...Good Luck...
you know i put allot of smart assed answers on here, although here i will give you honesty.





Marry your best friend....you have to spend allot of time together, be friends first, the passion fades.
Lots of communication is a must and is the number one key to keeping your marriage successful.





Always be honest with each other





Always be faithful





Never let your sex life get boring
Always be honest and communicate.


If you can't do that with the one you love then don't get married.
Love is from the heart... weight may change as may hair, teeth or home size.