A question for anyone that dates a married person?

This is a question that I am really curious about and I would like for everyone that been in this situation rather your the cheater, the victim being cheated on, or the sideline fling.


Okay now the question:


Why do you date someone that's married, catch feelings for the person, put your heart on the line, and expect them to leave there husband or wife?A question for anyone that dates a married person?
i think because they are so insecure. they feel so low that taking someones spouse away gives them a high. but they dont realize they're being played too.A question for anyone that dates a married person?
I don't think anyone that responded is actually ';living'; in this situation.





You have a good question with no answer. Frankly, I don't think there will EVER be an acceptable answer to cheating.





Your question brings me to ask - Why would a married person go outside their marriage, catch feelings for another person, give their heart to another and ';risk'; their marriage and have the other person feel they are willing to leave the union because it means so little (if it didn't why are they cheating) ???
Because you are lying to yourself. Thinking you can have this person, knowing they are never going to leave their spouse. Also because it's a game, even if you don't realize it. It's a game you are trying to win, trying to win the man/woman over. Seeing how much power you have. Either way, you are always lying to yourself, because they never leave. And if they did leave, you wouldn't want them anyway, because you'd be afraid they'd do the same thing to you.
You date someone that's married because you are looking for the right person - and just because they are married, that does not always mean they are with the right person. I think many of us have been with someone (who at the beginning we thought we be with forever) only to break-up and move on.
I did, however they were separated and had a history of cheating on each other. To be totally honest, I knew he was married and cheating as was she. He was really ';my type'; and after a good deal of rationalizing, I decided ';he's going to cheat anyway'; it might as well be me. I broke it off after a couple of years, when he wanted to get a divorce and get married. Knowing how we got together, I'd be afraid he'd cheat. We ended up being friends and some years later, they both still cheat....Very, very seldom does the cheating spouse leave for the side fling....and even more seldom, does that relationship work.
Because he is a coward..that's why. He has no intention on leaving his wife and family. It's the chase that excites him and like my mom use to tell me. ';Honey, all men are dogs, if you wave a piece of meat in front of them, they will eat it';, no matter what it taste like.
I think some people just see sex as sex. A lot of times there is not emotion involved and ';the other woman'; doesn't have any interest in stealing the man away or anything-they are just satisfying a physical need that is not being met. sad but true.
Some people like the challenge of going after something that is not theirs. Also, if they are unhappy, they want others to be also, hence they get a thrill out of being a homewrecker.
dont date a married man and dont get a man with kids
I think there are many reasons, not just one...